Pornography makes me want to rage against the machine – The machine of culture that tells us Porn is normal and should be accepted.
…. That it isn’t the cause of heartache, pain or the warped identity of so many women.
…..That it doesn’t form addictive and destructive paths of desensitization in the brain
…. That it’s irrelevant to rape culture, the abortion rate, sexual abuse, human trafficking or child molestation
…. Or responsible for the lack of intimacy, bonding in marriage, not to mention the high divorce rate.
Because it is in so many ways.
Porn threatens to ruin the divine purposes and integrity of the gift of sex and all God intended for it to be; because at it’s root, porn leads the individual to bond to the act of pleasure fulfilment over the individual.
It becomes an idol and the man (or woman) is subconsciously seeking fulfilment of a physical need or want, over a desire for their spouse or to be intimate; a wanting of sex more than the person. And it takes a miracle of healing by the Lord to rewire this way of thinking.
The rampant (and fairly unacknowledged) addiction of our society to pornography is something that has affected me deeply, both in my teen years and in my adult life. It has brought me to the feet of Jesus over an over, for both healing and forgiveness.
It’s led me to a place of fighting for the sexual integrity of our youth, through volunteering with local organizations that go into high schools and talk to teens about sex, their worth and the state of our cultures dangerous addiction to sex.
Reading this article, I felt the familiar flame of holy justice rise inside me.
It’s closing statements deserve to be written on every heart, billboard, social media wall and shared in every home.
“Never accept porn as a normal part of any relationship. It is harmful material that addicts the brain, damages relationships, and pushes warped perceptions about sex and intimacy into society.
You should never be expected to do anything for fear of a partner turning to porn or think its normal for them to do so.
Real love is sexy. Anything else is a counterfeit.”
I pray today that whatever your experience with pornography- whether single, dating or married- that God would reveal his heart to you on this topic and that you would have the courage to respond.