Social Media Free


Truth be told, I’ve never been a trend setter. I’ve always loved things long before they become cool or fancied them well after the entire world’s made it their own. Why? Who knows, but I’m ok that.
So keeping course with my usual self, I finally…. I mean finally “tested out” a social media free weekend. After all, I had to see what all the fuss was about!

Nah. Thats not fully truth.

I spent a good deal of time in therapy when I was a teen, learning to cope, manage and overcome my battle with anorexia, anxiety and every other derivative of OCD possible. Back then, before facebook, instagram, iphone and digital cameras that uploaded to social media, it wasn’t common for folks to take pictures of things other than people or events, unless they were a professional or an artist.

I lived constantly in the past and in the future, with no acknowledgment of the present or even my reality for that matter. One of my “prescribed medications” was a camera-  a good ol’ fashioned wined up disposable. Each week, I had to take photos of things that made me stop and look- something that caught my eye and brought me out of my “head” into reality, if even for a moment. Sometimes it was a stranger, a random finding, archetcture or simply nature. And after developing them and returning to my next session, photos in hand, we reviewed what it was- what emotion, sensation, feeling or longing is was, that tugged at my heart strings enough to make me stop.

Trust me. If you had been in my head, that was a feat of its own. But what I learnt so quickly was how much I had been missing! How beautiful life really was. How precious, meaningful, alive and story filled it was. I had been missing the opportunity to truly experience and live my own life- to write the chapters of my own adventure novel. I was too busy living the fictional one in my head.

The long and short of it is this. This simple lesson was the turning point in my recovery and to this day fuels my passion for taking photos; ordinary photos of simple, everyday moments that weave the beautiful story of my life – the ones I choose to celebrate.  Its how I honour God and thank him for the little things that truly set my heart on fire. [ my instagram obsession that started LONG LONG ago before it became a community, journal or business tool. The fact that I have people to talk to in it now is just a bonus!]

So back to my point and social media free weekends. I saw no need for it. I wasn’t addicted to social media. I no longer have a problem with living online vs in real life. I simply crave taking photos on the weekend when I actually have time to enjoy my hobby and eagerly anticipate it all week long! And come off it… whats the point of taking a photo of nothing without posting it to a social media outlet, right 😉 Well not really, but thats what’s become of our society, simply by habit and social acceptance. And the fact of the matter is, I fell prey to it too…

So on a whim, I decided to give it a try. How hard could it be? Three days free of social media and posting of my much loved “moment in time” snap shots. But truth is, it was difficult. So many times I found myself picking up my phone, simply because I had two seconds I wasn’t doing anything! [Heaven forbid I have to wait for the elevator,  for my dog to go pee or even myself for that matter. Admit it. You do it too!] Quickly I realized how much time there really was in a day to do the things I really really love, but never seem to get around to- like reading, editing photos, baking, crafting, taking baths and sitting, just for the sake of it! I had more meaningly conversations than I could count on one hand and truly felt like I was 100% present to love those right in front of me. I heard God’s promptings more clearing and I spend more focused and uninterrupted time in my devotionals. Simply put, I was a better version of me and life was that much MORE beautiful. I still took photos, but I found going back to them later in the week allowed me to re-appreciate all over again, that precious moment in time. And this week? I feel more refreshed, renewed and focused on what matters  than ever! Ready to give my days to the Lord more joyfully and strive to make further progress on my 2013 vision.

While I will openly admit, I didn’t see a “need” for social media free weekends in my life, I’m 100% on board here forward! Thank you Lara for opening my eyes and yet again encouraging growth, and a life lived on purpose… one of love, experienced from the inside.

Confession, I’m even considering getting rid of cable! God’s working on me though. In time …


My secret Weapon.

There comes those weeks when you feel the never ending weight of to-do’s. And while you move at lightening speed, placing every task to bed, the list seems never ending.  On those weeks, I want nothing more than to scream to the conductor,

“stop the carosoul and let me off!”   “Can I stop the world for even one day?!”  I beg. Please tell me you can relate!

I could blame the work load, my demanding projects, or simply complain about busyness, but reality is, no one but me can help myself. It’s in my hands to change my perspective and make my days count. And count they should!

After all, I’ve been blessed immeasurably so that I may be a blessing to others…. to you! 

And without fail, each and every time, like a defeated dog with my tail between my legs, I find a quiet corner to reflect, regroup and reignite.

Meet my secret weapon…..



While this beautiful image may be new, it’s principals are tried and true- the backbone to my rebirth with “Making Brands Happen.” I find, that when my weeks bare even the smallest resemblance to that above, I’ve slipped in one of these areas and lost focus on what really matters.

Anxiety. Comparison. Twitter (aka: my arch nemesis). Pinterest. TV. Long lists. Expectations.

________ Insert your energy sucker here. Because really, that’s what they are.

Rather than staying focused during the hours of “getting things done” you waiver, leaving the hours meant for “living,” a time for playing catch up. Meet the carousol!

So today, I encourage you: Get it out- Let it go-Focus- DO- and cut yourself some slack.

Do whatever you need to do, to be the best YOU, you can possibly be.
Because today is precious- it’s time to make it count!

She eats take-out on Fine China.

Yes. This is me.

I  light candles when I brainstorm. I savour chocolate when Im creating. I use china for my omelet and love crystal for my water. I give favors at my parties and eat hamburgers on lace. I wear heels to the market and crank jazz tunes for dinner prep. 

I make fancy out of everything, because I want to and it makes me happy. In my world, every occasion is one worth celebrating and every moment is the perfect time to do it. And no matter how silly it may seem to some, to others it’s refreshing, appreciated and admired.

We are unique, each of us in our own way. We eat, sleep and breathe originality, but at times, we choose to shy away from that. Instead, we dare to see ourselves through others perspective,  carefully editing our actions, to produce a desired outcome… but, who’s desired outcome? 

Yes, at the heart of life, we all crave love: to be accepted, adored and maybe even cherished… both personally AND professionally. But, when we desire that more than authenticity, we shadow and stifle our own light. People see us not for who we really are, but rather a facade, that will eventually fall.

At times, it proves more difficult and warrants courage beyond belief,   but I’d rather be the best ME possible, than a decent second best of someone else!

So, I ask you today:

Who are you trying to be…… you or someone else? 

It takes courage, my love.

What does it take?

….to dream big and choose action over fear

… to work smarter and harder than you ever dreamt possible

… to have passion and never apologize for it

… to find balance when you’re riding the carosoul, afraid you’ll never catch up

…. to be authentic to your soul, your values and your beliefs

… to lend a hand, when it’s the last thing your capable of doing

… to reach out, when your prides too big seek it

… to be wife, mom, friend, family, employee, entrepreneur, disciple

… to hold on tighter, have faith and choose gratitude….always! 


All these things take courage, my love, but in Christ, all things are possible.

“When work, commitment, and pleasure all become one and you reach that deep well where passion lives, nothing is impossible.”  ~ Nancy Coey

Quality over Quantity

As I pondered my New Year’s resolutions, the list kept building; including the usuals that tend to last a total of 48 hours, along with others that weigh heavy on my heart. From 3, came 5 and from 5 came 10.

As many know, I take resolutions quite seriously. Goals are my middle name and I’m one to stick to things ’till the job gets done… and well! (or mastered; whichever comes first) So, as I sat there staring at my pressing desires, I began to reflect on the heart of the matter. What did all these things have in common? 

Quality over Quantity

Whether its my personal life or my business, I tend to be gung ho! All in or nothing. I devour myself until Im chest deep in whatever it is Im doing. And while this is a wonderful asset, that lends to the over-achieving, persistent self starter that I am, it’s also, all consuming.

Let’s be frank…. “Balance” seems far from normal for this lady. 

So, as 2012 knocks on the door, I open, with favor for quality over quantity.


  •  I will choose to take on select projects that stir me from the inside, rather than every little thing that comes my way.
  •  I will focus on fewer projects at one time, to give each my absolute best and the extra attention each deserves, to fly and be fully appreciated/ savored.
  •  I will choose to supply quality content to my clients, rather than keeping up with the rat race, just to say I post 5 times a week.
  •  I will choose to focus on building select, strong networking relationships, with like minded professionals who share my values and passion. 
  •  I will choose efficiency over busy-ness.
  • I will choose to take breaks throughout the day and turn work off at 5…like the rest of the world. 
  • I will learn tomorrow comes quicker than I think, and leaving things until then, is OK!
  • I will choose slow, steady growth that can survive the times and favors longevity.
  • I will not be ashamed of my BIG DREAMS and will give myself what I need to achieve them 
  • I will not compare myself or my work to others and will instead, focus that attention of being the best ME I can be. 
  • I will not allow others hesitations, negativity or outlook, to affect my own heart, passion and dreams
  • I will choose vulnerability, openness and being raw: and not be ashamed if others don’t approve 


  • I will be intentional about setting date nights with my girlfriends and initiating mid-day coffee  breaks more frequently.
  • I will choose to be away from the computer, when my husband is home and wants to play “house”.
  • I will choose start my day with prayer, reflection and education, before emails, tweets and posts. 
  • I will choose to speak up about my faith, even when its uncomfortable and makes me feel like an outcast.
  • I will be OK with not working out, if I don’t have time for the 3rd day in a row and will NOT feel guilty about it. 
  • I will be OK with splurging on myself every now and again; I’m worth it! and the well won’t run dry because of one nice piece of clothing or one fancy dinner out.
  • I will choose my pumps over my boots ever now and again, to embrace the me I’ve known my whole life and deeply missed this past year.
  • I will set boundaries between people and things that have a negative impact on me; acknowledging their potential for long term hurt/ damage. 
  • I will put my family first: our needs are more important that always trying to keep peace or doing what others think I should or is “best”.
  • I will accept that there is no one model to be a Christian and will continue to carve my path and deepen my relationship with God (no matter how different it may look for others).
  • I will own the fact that I constantly change and evolve as a person. Some may deem that “re-invention,” I see it as “growth!”
  • I will embrace me and love her, flaws and all 

And finally, going back to where my journey all began…

“I will hold myself to a standard of Grace, rather than perfection!”  Emily Ley 

Start Today.


You’ve heard it before, but I’ll say it again…

  • what a difference a day can make
  • if I look back to a year ago, I would never have thought I’d be here
  • If you would have told me this, a year ago, I would not have believed you!

Truth: the common thread through all these sayings.

If I look at my own life or even the lives of my friends, the changes, growth and happiness that have transpired is one years time, is absolutely incredible.

One year ago…

  1. I was working a job a felt trapped in, too afraid to reach for my dreams…yet again and “fail.”
  2. I began to pray consistently, about everything… no matter how Big or Small
  3. I decided to lean on God alone, to guide me through the transitions and show me my path
  4. I took things day at a time and found happiness in each and every day, whether it was a small success in business, a great day with friends or a peaceful walk with my boys.

And Today, I can honestly say….

  1. I have never been happier and wake up every day smiling
  2. I have never been more content
  3. I no longer obsess about the future or where I want to be
  4. My anxiety and OCD, have lessened their stronghold on me
  5. My friendships, faith and marriage have strengthen and deepened to levels I never thought possible
  6. My priorities align themselves and reveal when things are out of whack
  7. I truly believe, 1 day, 1 talk, 1 pray or 1 meal can change my attitude and outlook
  8. I saw clearly, for the first time, why things fell the way they had and learnt more from my “failures” than ever
  9. God revealed His awesomeness, once I gave up control and let him!

Sometimes, the tiniest seeds harvest the greatest successes.

So, today, I dare YOU….

Plant a seed today.
Plant what matters to you.
Do not let fear, doubt or anxiety stop you.
Just do it, nurture it and watch it grow.

Taking a Breath.

This last week, I’ve felt scared; so out of character, I wasn’t quite sure what to do with the feelings. At first I let them fester, only to build and lead to a full out melt-down.

Before Kailey Michelle Events, I had a business face. I approached work with my black belt in Brand Management and followed a strategic list of steps, methodically memorized, to get from here to success. I never worried about how I was received, how I should market, how long it would take me to book business. I knew the drill and the “controlled planning” kept fear at bay.

Through the re-birth of my business, I lost that business face; more like smashed it to the ground. I shed the mask in favor of authenticity; me, front and center. While it’s beautiful in the making, reality leaves me shaking in my boots.

  • “Will people like the real me? my heart!?”
  • Will I book enough business?”
  • “Will people be turned off by public declaration of faith?” 

It manifests, I know. Couple that with everyone else’s opinions/ advice on what you should be doing,  and the mind begins to spin, in 50 different directions. 

And before you know it, your driving in the car screaming for God to calm you down.  Well, I would think!  😉 

And then He answers, through the honest words of a respected man. (He knew I’d listen)

“The rush to get to the next step makes us ignore the value of being where we are – seeing, feeling, experiencing.

We are so afraid of being left behind that we make everything a race.  Is it any wonder the stress we all feel to perform?  To create magic instantly?  When you build your business on speed of delivery and ultra-responsiveness you ignore the natural flow of creation.

There is theater to creative business.  If what you do requires three acts, there is no sense forcing it into one.  You rob your creative business of the arcs all great stories are built on.  Make no mistake, you, your art and your creative business are storytellers.  Selling the Cliff Notes version only gets you clients that have no appreciation for the nuance and necessity of time.

Take a breath.  Have your creative business take a breath. You cannot make it happen yesterday, but tomorrow will be more than worth the wait.”

Thanks Sean.  I needed that.